I’ve recently engaged in a few discussions online and offline that - quite honestly - brought me to the limits of my patience and good manners. Here I was, offering a different point view to a pretty conventional problem. I'm great at those, having had to think and work outside the proverbial box all my life.
As those of you who have been following me for a while will know, my novel perspectives aren’t simply figments of my imagination, but have been hard fought for with every choice I make in my life.
So, I felt that I had something to contribute to the conversation, offer my end of the learning experience… precisely because my perspective is so extraordinary.
Here’s how I dealt with that (after originally simply hitting back and then backtracking on those comments):
- Step 1: Deep Breath (or as many as needed!)
- Step 2: Remember who I am, what I know and all the practical work I’ve put in to get to this point.
- Step 3: Issue a grown-up, mature response to the insults hurled at me (in pain or anger or pure fear of an attractive blue-eyed blonde with brains and the official track record to prove it - what do I know about the other person’s motivation?).
- Step 4: Receive another immature push-back á la “YOU REALLY NEED HELP” and NOT hit the other person back.
- Step 5: Ask myself: WHAT do I really want?
- Step 6: Remove myself from the conversation. And wrap myself in love.
My first choice that needs to define everything I do is my personal happiness.
Which is what I promised to do when I chose to return into this body in my near-death experience in 2013.
So, I asked myself in the heat of the action: does participating in this argument make me happy? Does it give me positive energy? How do I really feel?
The answers were:
no, it doesn’t make me happy.
No, it gives me BAD energy.
And I feel like shit.
So, the only healthy option that I had at that point was: GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE!
The online conversation I participated in initially, btw, came with the ridiculous headline of “fight the light” - mhmmm… yeah, right.
Given that I’m all about embracing the light, I might have had the smarts to stay out of it from the get-go. Since I didn’t, I needed a reminder, apparently.
What’s the point of me talking about this in a blog-post? A very practical one: whoever reads this is bound to have some major insights that are pretty unique. And they’ll be out there to help others along on their own path, just like I am. I’d like to encourage those of you this applies to to pick your battles wisely. And, above all, do what makes you happy and joyful, even if your happiness means passing up a teaching opportunity. You and I WILL be teaching anyway - only it will be invisible, with the energy vortex you're creating by following what's good and healing and happiness-inducing to you! And that is - in my experience - much more powerful as a teaching tool than anything you could issue as a statement.
Realize that talking about or posting things that invite less reflective souls to beat you up is a choice, too. That it has something to do with an addiction to pain that wants to be made conscious and resolved. And then go do what’s really healing for yourself: let it go. Allow yourself to partake in ONLY positive interactions.
And if those aren’t possible with other human beings, seek quiet time in nature. In my experience, nature will always fulfill my request for love, peace, harmony and healing. A L W A Y S.
And now go laugh it all off. You deserve it!
And after that: choose actions that make yourself feel loved. Every single time. <3
Love and light,